How to Build a Love That Lasts | John & Julie Gottman

Drs. John and Julie Gottman, renowned relationship researchers and co-founders of the Gottman Method, explain what happens when connection, trust, intimacy, and emotional responsiveness begin to break down - and what couples can do to rebuild their relationship. In this conversation, the Gottmans explore the science of love, relationships, conflict, communication, intimacy, and long-term connection. They explain why some couples recover from conflict while others become emotionally disconnected, and why the way couples fight may matter more than how often they fight. They discuss the difference between anger and apathy, why anger can actually be a signal that there is still something worth repairing, and why indifference may be a more serious warning sign. Please comment and subscribe so John and Julie bring you more videos. Timestamps Chapters 00:00 Falling Back in Love 04:32 Stress & Your Relationship 06:10 When Love Becomes Real 09:40 The Power of Empathy 12:30 Why We Hurt the Ones We Love 19:53 How to Make a Repair 21:31 How to Not Ruin Your Relationship 24:10 Sex & Intimacy 26:30 Can Men & Women Be Friends? 27:11 Is AI Cheating? 29:52 Staying Connected After 20 Years You’ll also learn about: Why couples fall out of love How to reignite connection in a long-term relationship The impact of stress on relationships What happens when recurring arguments never get resolved How repeated turning away from your partner can erode trust Limerence and what happens when the honeymoon phase ends How couples learn to love each other beyond idealization Why empathy is essential for healthy relationships How to listen without becoming defensive Why trying to “fix” your partner can make things worse Why we sometimes hurt the people we love What happens when you're physiologically flooded during conflict How to calm down before a difficult conversation The Gottmans' five-step aftermath of a fight repair process How to repair after relationship conflict The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and relationship breakdown How to use a softened startup instead of criticism and defensiveness The “I feel… about what… I need…” communication formula How turning toward bids for connection strengthens relationships Why noticing the positive moments matters Sex and intimacy in long-term relationships How couples can talk about differences in sexual desire Whether AI relationships and AI companionship can be considered cheating Why secrecy and context matter when discussing emotional and sexual boundaries How couples can stay emotionally connected after 20 years or more together Why rituals, shared experiences, novelty, and adventure can help couples maintain connection If you're struggling with relationship problems, communication issues, recurring conflict, emotional disconnection, intimacy, or falling out of love, this conversation offers research-based relationship advice from two of the world's leading experts on couples and marriage. The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed from decades of research on relationships. The Gottmans' work focuses on helping couples understand conflict, strengthen friendship and intimacy, build trust, and create lasting relationships. #JohnGottman #JulieGottman #GottmanMethod #Relationships #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageAdvice #Love #Communication #Intimacy **Disclaimer:** The content on this channel is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Watching these videos does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you're in crisis, seek help from a licensed professional or emergency services.