Learn how to fight and still love one another in this 30 minute "Fight School" with the Gottmans.

What happens when relationship experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman demonstrate everything you SHOULDN’T do in a relationship? 😂❤️From the Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling) to harsh startups, emotional flooding, and rejecting your partner’s influence, John and Julie show us what unhealthy communication actually looks like—and how small changes can make a big difference. Timestamps: 00:00 The Four Horsemen: How NOT to Fight 05:52 The Four Horsemen Explained 08:32 Harsh Startup vs. Softened Startup 10:40 How to Start Difficult Conversations Gently 11:59 Building Love Maps: How Well Do You Know Your Partner? 15:16 Why Curiosity Keeps Love Alive 17:41 Rejecting vs. Accepting Influence 19:54 The Secret to Compromise in Relationships 22:04 Emotional Flooding: When Arguments Get Overwhelming 23:14 Why Taking a Break Can Save an Argument 24:33 Supporting Your Partner's Dreams 28:52 How to Help Your Partner's Dreams Come True Through hilarious, real-life scenarios, they demonstrate how to: ❤️ Turn criticism into healthier communication ❤️ Replace harsh startups with gentler conversations ❤️ Stay curious and keep building your Love Maps ❤️ Accept influence instead of shutting down your partner ❤️ Recognize emotional flooding and take a break ❤️ Support each other’s dreams and goals Because even the smallest disagreements—yes, even about toothpaste—can reveal important patterns in how we communicate. Which of these relationship habits do you recognize? Tell us in the comments! 👇#GottmanInstitute #JohnGottman #JulieGottman #RelationshipAdvice #FourHorsemen #HealthyRelationships #MarriageAdvice #CouplesCommunication #GottmanMethod **Disclaimer:** The content on this channel is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. Watching these videos does not establish a therapist-client relationship. If you're in crisis, seek help from a licensed professional or emergency services.